The 'If you need toys, you are doing something wrong'-debate
- Jul 28, 2016
- 3 min read
Unfortunately there are many people who can relate to the above comment. Of course, dildos, plugs and many other variations are not always everyone's thing, but that should not mean that one is better or worse sexually. I personally think that this is down to inexperience with the matter. How can you know that you do not like it if you've never tried it? Something to keep in mind around everything with sexuality; you are always in control! When something does not feel good, you can always stop. It drills down to your enjoyment and you don't need to prove anything to anyone. But where do you start this discovery?
With a little browsing soon you find out that the range a lot more passes than dildos, butt plugs and vibrators. There are many options and it can sometimes be overwhelming (speaking from experience here). If there is no partner or friend(s) with which you can discuss these subjects is certainly a good idea to look at reviews and blogs on the subject. These make sex toys accessible. Reading the findings of a real user is often very comforting and can help with finding an appropriate sex toy for you. Also take your own knowledge of your body into consideration; after all, you know yourself best. For example, you know you're tight, do not go directly to the largest Tarzan that you can find - even though it is pink with diamonds. Or if you are looking for a penis ring, look carefully at the dimensions.
Solo play
Toys are a godsend if you have a moment for yourself (whether you're in a relationship or not) and you want something different when you're playing with yourself. Many people find that the more you experiment with what you like and do not like, you generally become a more confident and ultimately a better bed partner; was also the case with me. Win-win so! Exceptions to every rule of course..
Worldwide, the Fleshlight is the best-selling sex toy. This of course is purely aimed at men, but it certainly does not stop there! There are sleeves, penis rings, harnesses, probes, and much more! That's just for the penis. For women, there are certainly many different sex toys, but many dildos, plugs and vibrators are for both men and women to use, so always look around when looking somewhere!
Tip: P-spot (prostate) massagers also work very well as a G-spot stimulator for the ladies and vice versa!
For couples
Objects used in bed is definitely not just for singles! Together you can discover what you do and do not like, which in my case, gives you a much deeper personal connection with your partner. After you've inserted a plug in the other person, there are few things that cannot discuss together. Don't be afraid to share things! Etiquette however, is usually to make sure that your sex toys are clean and stored appropriately to avoid nasty surprises .. * cough-cough *
Other accessories
Not all sex toys are intended for penetration. For example, there are more clamps, Wartenberg wheels, electro-stimulation machines. There is even furniture that you can use!
The most important thing is; HAVE FUN!
Have you tried something and you love it? Fantastic! Is not it your thing? No problem, because you can discover more precise what would be right for you.
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